I am the way you see me...so stop asking me

When I get engaged, I'll let you know. If I get pregnant, I'll probably blurt that out too. Until then, please stop asking me! As of right now, I'm in a happy, healthy and loving relationship and that's where I am.



It's weird. Not only do we torture ourselves (with all the worrying about the past and the future that we inflict on ourselves/feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, etc.), but others torture us as well. Misery definitely loves company. It's kind of hard these days to find people who are happily married and who have stayed that way for decades. It's a blessing to run across a couple who has stayed together for 20 years. But, people still are hounding me about when am I going to get married, don't I want to have children, what am I waiting for, blah blah blah.



Jeez people. You're not even happy in your own relationships, so why are you trying to corner me into getting into something that I'm not ready for? You already know it's hard. Obviously..you're struggling with it right now or have in the past. It's not that I don't want to get married, but it's that I want to get married when we're both ready. A wedding is a one day event. A marriage is a lifetime event (or anyway, I want mine to be). A marriage takes more than love and affection to see it through till then end. It also takes finances, a commitment to be selfless, maturity, and the list goes on! I'm not a complete nincompoop, but when I say I'm not ready, it's because I'm not and I don't think it's right to try to convince me or try to rationalize with me otherwise. When people get married who are not yet ready, they end up divorced. And, in my opinion, I think we have enough of that already. So, in due time............

Peace.